When starting a new relationship we all tend to look for some of the same qualities in a guy. Is he caring? Does he have a sense of humor? Will he be faithful? All these are important but we must go a little deeper, be honest with ourselves and be specific about what determines if he is truly relationship material. Below are some of the essential things that you should be on the lookout for to decide if he is really relationship material.
Is he single? This may seem like common sense but a man that is currently in a relationship is simply not relationship material. If he tells you things like, “I am trying to break it off and not hurt her feelings.” “I am married but we don’t even talk anymore.” “I need to see you at your place because I haven’t moved out of my girlfriend’s place yet.” “I will come by later after she goes to sleep.” “We are in the middle of a messy divorce.” – you need to run for the hills, he is NOT relationship material! If he is attached to someone else in any way, he will not be emotionally available for you. I know for some of you it is hard to deal with, you often feel like the good guy is already taken, please let go of this myth. There are good guys out there, you just have to take your time to find them and trust me he is not in the arms of another woman.
Does he respect you? Can he respect the fact that you want to wait to have sex? He is not expecting a kiss at the end of the date? In other words he realizes that you are worth waiting for and he is attempting to get to know you better before jumping in bed. Ladies, if he is relationship material he will want more from you than just sex. So he will he be okay if you were to say no to his advances. If he is relationship material he will not only be okay with waiting for you, he will expect to wait and find you more attractive for it.
Does he know how to express his feelings? Is he being honest and open with you? If he is true relationship material he will express himself and the way he feels without any problem. He will let you know what’s on in his mind and in his heart. He is serious and firm, yet caring and comforting with his words. He will not play mind games with you and have you going in circles about where he stands when it comes to his feelings for you. He will expect you to respect and listen to his needs and he will do the same thing in return. If he is relationship material he is mature and confident about himself and what it means to be in a partnership.
Is he a man of his word? There is nothing more attractive than a man that does what he says he will do! So he promised you that he would go with you to meet your parents at the family BBQ, and he shows on time with flowers for you and your mother. He is definitely relationship material. But on the other side of that if he were unable to meet with you at your parents or anyplace else for that matter, he would be honest and upfront and let you know. If he delivers on his promises, he may be ready to handle a full-time partnership so be on the lookout for his words and actions to be sure they are equally consistent.